The one thing that surprised me the most from the
assessments was the verbally aggressive test.
I was shocked to find out how I was rated and that my fiancé agreed with
me. I was not aware of how I handled
different situations such as home and work.
My coworker had no problem with the way I handled situations leading me
believe that I handle the situations completely different according to where I
am.
One insight that I gained this week is how my approach can
be taken as aggressive. Now that I am
more aware, I am able to make a concise effort on how to improve.
The second insight that I gained is in regards to undue
influence. I had never heard that term
before and was unaware of how it can present.
I notice how this happens often and can affect relationships people
have.
Jacqueline,
ReplyDeleteI find it interesting that your fiancé and you agreed to the level of an aggressive communicator, whereas I thought I was not an aggressive communicator but my score was higher. And the way my husband and father in law scored me was opposite. I think it’s also interesting that these scores help us move from unaware of how we communicate to remaining aware from others how we communicate. Do you believe our relationships with our friends and family members (that we are close with) scores would be different if we had a friend (we just met) score us? Or a co-worker? I would like to share my post with you here is the link hopefully you can copy and paste it
http://msjw-cortezecestudieswaldenuniv.blogspot.com/
Thanks for sharing, it is always shocking when we complete exercises like the ones this week because we are faced with perceptions of ourselves that we are not ready to face. I know for myself, I am a very emotional communicator and I used to see that as a strength until co-workers later pointed out that it can actually be considered a weakness and lack credibility. I agree that everyone communicates very differently at work than they do at home. I also think this is a good thing. Thanks for sharing.
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Jacqueline,
ReplyDeleteAccording to our text, among the factors that shape our communications are goals and expectations. We tend to build a set of expectations from relationships we establish throughout our lives. As these two can be notably different in various contexts and with different people, it is only reasonable to find that we are perceived differently by individuals, depending on the nature of our relationship with them. I believe that the reason for this is the fact that we modify our behavior to fit our goals and reach what we aspire from each relationship. I agree with Amber that this approach is actually a good thing. Thanks for sharing.
Reem
Jacqueline, Do you have a certain expectations of how individuals communicate? I feel that maybe most people have different factors of how we should communicate with one another. Do you feel that you are too aggressive when you communicate? Do you feel that some of your relationships have been affected due to being aggressive? I know I have, but now seeing that we can approach things differently. Thanks for sharing. - Brittany
ReplyDeleteHi Jacqueline,
ReplyDeleteThese assessments surprised many of us. These were great exercises to help us reevaluate ourselves and do what's needed to improve. It is good you are now aware that you have to improve on your level of verbal aggressiveness. Thanks for sharing.
Brenda
I too was surprised with the aggressive survey. The overall scoring seemed right on, but it was the questions that brought to light areas that I can work on. I answered in a general sense, how I mostly communicated, yet had not realized that some ways I communicate when feeling moody can be quite aggressive!
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I had some interesting outcomes on the verbal aggressiveness rating as well. My family scored me quite high in this area, where I scored myself moderately. Do you think it is because we are direct and do not allow people to walk all over us and speak up about things that may not be right, that people think we are aggressive? Or is it that people are just sensitive and when anything is questioned it is perceived as aggression? Penny for your thoughts. :)
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